Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Isn't this a good signal, not a bad one?

Q : I WENT OUT FOR DINNER WITH THIS GUY, and it was great — we got along well, and there was a definite spark. But when it came time to pay, he pulled out a coupon. I'm hardly a princess, but that totally killed it for me. Am I being too hard on him?
A: Here's my little theory. It's a good signal if you're interested in a committed relationship and you want someone who is financially responsible. It's a bad signal if you want someone to pamper you and you're not looking to join your life and back accounts.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

There was an episode of the Office where the boss, Michael, pulls out a 2 for 1 coupon on a romantic date, and I died laughing. It's the type of thing you do once you've got the girl hooked, although I like the fact that this guy is showing who he is up front - truth in advertising.

I'm more the opposite. I see a girl with a designer handbag, and I want nothing to do with her because I know I won't be able to pamper her like she wants. Plus, I'm afraid she would ruin me financially.

By the way, there was an article in the Journal of Consumer Research within the past year or two about the social stigma associated with using coupons.

9:06 PM  
Blogger hemlock said...

cant we play pretend at least for the wooing period???

i would and hav) used the coupons on myself, and sometimes friends, but if a guy pulled one out on the first date i'd feel cheap.

i would recommend offering to go dutch.

10:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm hardly a princess, but that totally killed it for me.

Man, what a bitch even from an hypothetical sense of view.

8:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's not financially responsible, that's stupid. Whoever even suggests that this type of behavior shows financial responsibility needs to take a deep look in the mirror.

If you can't afford to take a date out without a coupon to X restaurant, downgrade. First date and you pull out a coupon is like the first date and you never say anything nice to her about anything.. never open the door for her.. it removes all elements of romance and sets it in harsh reality.

So, this is not a question for economists to ponder. This is a question of taste and class. Clearly, no class here.

Having said that, my wife and I went to have dinner on Valentine's day and we used a coupon. We've been together for 10 years, we get to do that. It doesn't affect our romance.. but we wouldn't be together for 10 years if I had pulled out a coupon when I took her out to the Italian restaurant by the university campus.


9:05 AM  
Anonymous Shanz said...

haha a very good advice. Usually i hear questions who should pay for date? If it's expensive date you better split else a smart lady will think you are putting her in pedestal

1:15 PM  

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