In love, but getting married for "technical reasons" - Washington Post

Dear "Confused Catholic,"

Offensive would be to go there and fake it to secure a church wedding -- to treat a house of worship as a party venue.

Fortunately for you -- and, psst, a goodly number of Catholic brides and grooms -- finding your virginity isn't the only way to show respect for your church. Recommitting to it is another option, though apparently not one you're entertaining. Another is to be honest with the priest about your cafeteria-style Catholicism and then defer to his judgment on the appropriateness of your receiving sacraments.

(My emphasis added.) There are endless roll-your-own-church options. But "confused" wants a church wedding even though she doesn't respect the Catholic church. She is confused but she's not alone.